Just as there is no rule book detailing the “right” thing to say to someone at a funeral, it can be difficult to know what you should or should not bring to a service. Funerals and memorials are a time for quiet reflection, bonding with loved ones and remembering a life well-lived — not necessarily the right venue for loud electronics or other noisy devices. Depending on a family’s faith and cultural background, funerals may be a time of quiet reflection or exuberant joy and celebration of the individual who has passed away. These general rules of Service Etiquette will allow you to be confident in your choices for what to bring (or leave at home) when supporting those you care for during a difficult time.
Children tend to bring joy wherever they are — and can add a breath of fresh air to what could otherwise be a very somber occasion. Consider that not all children are at an age or of a temperament to endure a lengthy service surrounded by new people and demanding quiet periods. This is also a time when you may be more focused on being supportive or grieving yourself, therefore you may want to consider a sitter. If you do bring your child to a funeral service be sure to bring small, quiet toys or coloring books to keep them entertained and out of trouble. Electronics are fine as well, just be sure they are switched to silent. If you are planning to bring your child and these were forgotten at home, ask a staff member of the funeral home or church if they may have something available. Sometimes a side room may be vacant for them to play in without detracting from the service.
Attending a funeral can bring strong emotions to the forefront for anyone, especially close friends or family members of the deceased. At Mountain View Funeral Home and Cemetery, our caring and compassionate staff will help answer questions both before and during the ceremony to ensure that everyone is as comfortable as possible.