When you are grieving the loss of a friend or family member, probably the last thing you are thinking about is what to wear. At a stressful and emotional time, you want to focus on remembering and celebrating your loved one.
Losing someone you love can be overwhelming. If you are helping to plan a funeral or attending a funeral, you may also feel overwhelmed by the thought of what to wear. What is appropriate for a funeral? Do you have to wear black? Do you need to purchase something new?
You may be short on time, especially if you were not prepared to attend a funeral. You don’t always have to rush out and purchase a new outfit. Instead of adding to the stress, the best place to start is likely at home. You probably already have something in your closet that will be appropriate and respectful, whether you are attending a funeral or a celebration of life.
Is there even such a thing as funeral etiquette when it comes to what to wear? Absolutely. A funeral is a time to mourn the loss of a loved one and celebrate the life they had here on earth.
Because it is a question that comes up quite frequently, we will examine what to wear to a funeral. Specifically, we are taking a look at traditional funeral attire while keeping in mind that things have become less traditional in recent years. What does this mean? Funeral etiquette may be changing. In other words, don’t think that you necessarily have to wear all black.
People all over the world have worn black to funerals for centuries. It is even believed that wearing black to funerals dates as far back as the Roman Empire. Black became known as a color that symbolizes mourning. In some religions and cultures, that tradition continues today. Therefore, black remains a common and appropriate color choice for funerals.
However, funeral attire has become less formal in many communities, particularly for celebrations of life. Some celebrations of life even encourage attendees to wear the favorite color of the deceased. No matter the theme of the service or the religious beliefs of the deceased and mourners, there are a few things to keep in mind when deciding what to wear to a funeral.
Are there things that you should avoid? Yes. It is not recommended to wear athletic attire to a funeral or celebration of life unless requested by the family. Sequins, flashy fabrics, and heavy perfume should also be avoided. Keep your clothing subtle, and you’ll honor the deceased while avoiding standing out.
Different cultures and religions have different traditions and beliefs when it comes to funeral services. In some cultures, there may be specific colors designated for mourning. There could also be certain colors that are traditionally avoided at a funeral service.
For example, white is traditionally associated with mourning in many Chinese funeral customs, while red, a color commonly associated with happiness and celebration, may be avoided. However, traditions can vary depending on the family, religion, and community.
What is the best practice if you are attending a funeral service for someone from a different culture or an unfamiliar religion? Call the funeral home or ask someone close to the family for advice. They will likely be aware of particular traditions or customs and can let you know if there are specific colors or types of clothing you should wear or avoid.
It should go without saying, but anything you wear to a funeral or celebration of life should be respectful. The ceremony is not about looking good; it is about celebrating and remembering the person who was lost.
Be mindful of the reason for your wardrobe. Loud prints, clothing with holes, and body-conscious dresses are probably not the best choices for a funeral. For women, think about the length of your skirt or dress and how much skin is exposed in your outfit. For men, think about what you would wear to the office, not what you would wear for a night out on the town. Exceptions may apply if the family of the deceased specifically requests certain attire or if the weather calls for lighter clothing.
While it is customary to wear black to funerals, you don’t have to choose an all-black outfit to comply with funeral etiquette. Choices that are not black but are still safe bets include navy blue and brown. If you are usually a snappy dresser who wears bright clothing, a funeral may be the time to tone your wardrobe choice down a bit.
Sometimes, there is a theme for a funeral. This might be the case if the deceased suffered from a particular disease associated with a specific awareness color, or perhaps the deceased supported a particular sports team. If a family asks attendees to wear a particular color or specific clothing, try your best to accommodate those requests. It will make the family feel loved and honor the deceased at the same time. After all, that is what the funeral is about.
There is a lot of emotion involved in a funeral or celebration of life. Being prepared will help you deal with emotions you may experience during the event.
How can you be prepared? It is a good idea to have tissues on hand in case emotions take over. You may need them yourself, or you may be able to help someone else who is feeling emotional during the funeral. Men can easily stash a few in their pockets, while women can carry a small pack of tissues in their handbags.
At many funerals, it is also acceptable to bring sunglasses, especially if part of the ceremony is outdoors. Sunglasses can be helpful whether the sun is in your eyes or you are having trouble controlling your emotions and need a break from making eye contact with others.
There is no doubt that funerals and celebrations of life are emotionally charged events. Wearing appropriate clothing can help ease one concern on what may already be a stressful day.
At Mountain View Funeral Home & Cemetery, we care about all aspects of funeral etiquette. Our friendly and knowledgeable staff are available by phone at 480-832-2850 or by email at wecare@mvfuneralhome.com.
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