Finding the right words of comfort in a difficult situation is never easy, especially when familiar platitudes do not feel like the right answer. “Things will be better soon” may not be the right sentiment to present to someone who has a terminally ill loved one, but you still want to offer what comfort that you can. Death is an inevitable part of life, but that doesn’t make this final parting any easier. There are no magic phrases, but here are a few ways to communicate your love and compassion during this emotional time.
Individuals go through grief in different ways, and sometimes the best way to show your support is simply to be present. Whether that is on the phone if you are far away or coming to visit if you are in the area. The gift of your presence is often enough, especially when you let your grieving friend or family member lead the conversation. It is important that you don’t feel as though you need to bring levity or overwhelming grief to the conversation. Follow the cues that you receive and do your best to allow the conversation to flow naturally. Sharing news of your other family members or neighbors may be a way to encourage the individual to change the topic if they are so inclined.
Sometimes the most supportive thing that you can say is nothing at all. The sound of silence can be deafening for humans, causing us to want to fill the void left when words are no longer enough. There are times that there is no comfort left to give except yourself, as you quietly meditate together on a life well-lived.
Creating a peaceful and positive environment for a family member with a terminally ill loved one can take many forms: bringing a dinner dish to caregivers, sitting quietly together in the evening or a welcome cup of coffee after a long night. What is important is that any effort you make will be appreciated, perhaps more than you will ever know. When you have questions about funeral etiquette or want to learn more about pre-planning your funeral, contact the caring professionals at Mountain View Funeral Home and Cemetary. We have been caring for families for generations, and are always available to help support you and your family at 480-832-2850 or via email to [email protected]. We offer a range of memorial keepsakes which can provide loved ones with beautiful memories they can cherish forever.